Let them grieve the loss of their sh*tty little brat. It's still grief.

WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.760 --> 00:00:06.719 It makes little noise, drums go, and now I can talk. I 2 00:00:06.839 --> 00:00:12.910 have a podcast, I have a voice. It's up johnny emotions. It's 3 00:00:12.990 --> 00:00:17.829 Tuesday, November seventeen. Oh, so it turns out I've been doing this 4 00:00:18.070 --> 00:00:26.460 whole podcast thing wrong, the whole intro, the ads, youtube videos as 5 00:00:26.460 --> 00:00:30.460 a whole thing. I'm just so, I've been doing my research. I'm 6 00:00:30.460 --> 00:00:35.460 going to change the way we do the podcast intro. So Ready, let 7 00:00:35.539 --> 00:00:42.130 me prepare myself and give it a shot. You Go, eat your boy. 8 00:00:42.369 --> 00:00:44.770 Go ahead and smash that like button, hit subscribe and make sure you 9 00:00:44.850 --> 00:00:48.170 ring that bell. Subscribe to our newsletter. Follow on on Facebook, twitter, 10 00:00:48.210 --> 00:00:50.960 instagram, linkedin my space, Tumbler, pinterest and check out our new 11 00:00:51.079 --> 00:00:55.399 merchandise and give us free money over there each month on Patreon. After the 12 00:00:55.479 --> 00:00:59.960 bump, we'll talk about bullet point one, bullet point two and how you 13 00:01:00.079 --> 00:01:06.030 can use these bullet points to achieve X. it's podcast title for today's date. 14 00:01:07.870 --> 00:01:11.670 Have you heard about mattresses? Here's an APP for one you can't afford 15 00:01:11.709 --> 00:01:17.829 after the trial period and welcome our newer sponsors. Build your own website that 16 00:01:17.950 --> 00:01:22.859 nobody will visit and prepackaged meal service to prepare you for when you're old. 17 00:01:23.260 --> 00:01:38.769 And now back to that asshole. He's so stupid. See, it's that 18 00:01:38.930 --> 00:01:44.769 way, way better. I love it, man. It's funny when you 19 00:01:44.890 --> 00:01:47.599 do well, okay, here's. Here's what got meal stuck on this, 20 00:01:48.200 --> 00:01:52.280 and I'm trying not to get down on myself for it, because there's no 21 00:01:52.400 --> 00:01:56.680 reason to, but I do. I do that anyway. I was I'm 22 00:01:56.719 --> 00:02:00.359 trying to think of like, what do I put in the description for this 23 00:02:00.560 --> 00:02:05.629 podcast? It should say something, but I don't even know, like what 24 00:02:05.790 --> 00:02:07.830 a common theme I talk about is. I just feel like I'm talking about 25 00:02:07.830 --> 00:02:13.789 Shit I'm into. That's a horrible title for a PODCAST, though. John 26 00:02:13.870 --> 00:02:19.060 Talks about shit he's into. Doesn't sound right, even if you change shit 27 00:02:19.180 --> 00:02:23.620 the things. Sounds kind of boring. I don't know. Can you help? 28 00:02:25.979 --> 00:02:29.500 So I thought, here, do this. So I went to look 29 00:02:29.580 --> 00:02:35.330 through the what do you call it? The reviews? Yeah, reviews, 30 00:02:35.770 --> 00:02:38.810 like not the click star part, but the actual written reviews on Apple, 31 00:02:39.490 --> 00:02:44.210 and I thought I might be able to discern something from there and I couldn't 32 00:02:44.210 --> 00:02:49.680 really discern anything from there that like fit. That's what got me thinking about 33 00:02:49.680 --> 00:02:55.840 reviews and how like crazy, weird fucking idiots get tons of reviews and likes 34 00:02:55.879 --> 00:03:00.270 and things like that on Youtube, and that's where I just came up. 35 00:03:00.310 --> 00:03:02.469 that the common thread there's like the common thing. They all they all say 36 00:03:02.509 --> 00:03:07.669 the same shit, but I'm like that that can't be what's working. HMM. 37 00:03:07.030 --> 00:03:12.150 And you hear that what's I work in marketing. I hear it a 38 00:03:12.189 --> 00:03:14.539 lot and I even if you don't work in a marketing you might hear this 39 00:03:14.620 --> 00:03:22.379 whole thing about authenticity and being genuine and that's what makes people likable and popular. 40 00:03:22.539 --> 00:03:24.780 And I don't I don't think that's necessarily true. I think it's about 41 00:03:24.900 --> 00:03:34.370 half true. I think others want to see positivity. So if you're genuinely 42 00:03:34.569 --> 00:03:43.599 positive and authentically upbeat, for sure you'll get a lot of clicks. If 43 00:03:43.800 --> 00:03:50.879 you are genuinely a Downer and down beat about it, like most of the 44 00:03:50.960 --> 00:03:54.710 time, if that's your general m then yeah, you're probably not going to 45 00:03:54.789 --> 00:03:59.830 get a lot of cliques. However, there's a caveat to that. It 46 00:04:00.069 --> 00:04:03.990 is if you're a hot chick or a basic chick or a dude. The 47 00:04:04.069 --> 00:04:08.830 dudes are a whole separate category. Dudes get no play in this and the 48 00:04:08.949 --> 00:04:13.379 thing with the hot chicks. Those everybody finds some chick hot, so every 49 00:04:13.419 --> 00:04:18.899 chick is caught really right, and chicks have that advantage in the grand scheme 50 00:04:18.939 --> 00:04:25.250 of the world, in the animal kingdom that humans belong, it feels like 51 00:04:25.850 --> 00:04:30.649 to me, women have a sex as their main tool or weapon. Men 52 00:04:30.810 --> 00:04:35.569 have violence. It sounds it's very crude and a very oversimplified and whatnot, 53 00:04:36.089 --> 00:04:40.439 not dismissing any of the other contributions of that. Everybody can be both. 54 00:04:40.560 --> 00:04:45.439 I get it just generally speaking, because on the Internet sex is not one 55 00:04:45.560 --> 00:04:50.600 thing. Men have to get reviews. We show our cleavage, nobody cares. 56 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:56.629 You want to see my balls? Nobody. Nobody cares. Like there's 57 00:04:56.629 --> 00:05:01.310 a false equivalency between breasts and balls testicles, and nobody wants to see the 58 00:05:01.910 --> 00:05:05.149 fucking hairy old ball sac or even a smooth ball sac. Maybe some people 59 00:05:05.149 --> 00:05:09.379 do, I don't know. It's not a thing, but you probably get 60 00:05:09.540 --> 00:05:15.540 band off of twitch for it. Yeah, there's an indefinitely an advantage there 61 00:05:15.019 --> 00:05:19.100 and if you have it, depending on what spectrum of the gender you fall 62 00:05:19.660 --> 00:05:23.810 you know, it's up to you personally whether you want to use your advantage 63 00:05:24.610 --> 00:05:30.649 for evil or for good or whatever. So I'm not like knocking people who 64 00:05:30.649 --> 00:05:33.170 use sex as as a key to get more viewers or subscription or likes, 65 00:05:34.209 --> 00:05:39.279 just something I noticed when I was looking at how reviews and clicks and likes 66 00:05:39.759 --> 00:05:44.720 happened generally. That said, I'm going back to the original point. I 67 00:05:44.800 --> 00:05:46.920 don't know what to describe this show as. If you can help, and 68 00:05:47.560 --> 00:05:51.430 you can do it by way of leaving a review somewhere, probably itunes to 69 00:05:51.589 --> 00:05:55.269 be the best. It's a little complex to get in there, but it 70 00:05:55.350 --> 00:06:00.310 would be helpful and tell me what you I don't know what should I call 71 00:06:00.350 --> 00:06:01.790 the fuck? Not Call the show, but like how would I describe it 72 00:06:01.870 --> 00:06:06.019 in like two or three sentences? It's tough, but I can use your 73 00:06:06.060 --> 00:06:11.379 help. So, as you may know, if you've been listening, I 74 00:06:11.660 --> 00:06:15.740 am in the middle of America. I'm used to being on a coast, 75 00:06:15.540 --> 00:06:23.170 California or Louisiana. Now I'm in the middle, which actually doesn't really matter 76 00:06:23.250 --> 00:06:29.170 where I am as far as the topography goes. I like Oklahoma. It's 77 00:06:29.209 --> 00:06:32.000 really cool. Lots of lakes, let's tree, lots of freedom, lots 78 00:06:32.040 --> 00:06:38.800 of liberty and that sort of thing. Also, however, lots of Donald 79 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:43.879 Trump supporters one of which I am not. I'm just not a supporter of 80 00:06:43.959 --> 00:06:46.670 government. I'm like an anarchist. I'm not like an anarchist, I am 81 00:06:46.709 --> 00:06:50.990 an anarchist with a lowercase hey. I don't believe in God's or rulers, 82 00:06:51.389 --> 00:06:55.870 and to me, an authoritarian is the worst of all. Now, I 83 00:06:55.949 --> 00:07:00.949 think authoritarians coming all different shapes and colors and stripes. However, when they're 84 00:07:00.029 --> 00:07:05.180 fucking buffoons and idiots and clowns, on top of it, it's especially embarrassing 85 00:07:05.660 --> 00:07:11.259 for the country as well. And now there's quarter million dead people because the 86 00:07:11.339 --> 00:07:15.930 Jackass didn't take any action when he could have and should have. I could 87 00:07:15.970 --> 00:07:20.009 go on and on. I I'm a protester, like I'm one of those 88 00:07:20.050 --> 00:07:26.290 people who protest in the streets. I don't get myself arrested, I don't 89 00:07:26.329 --> 00:07:31.600 destroy things. I don't disapprove of people who destroy things. If they destroyed 90 00:07:31.680 --> 00:07:34.680 my things, I'd be pissed, but I would get it, I would 91 00:07:34.680 --> 00:07:42.439 understand and definitely not violent toward other human beings. But I am a human 92 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:46.709 and I tend to be pretty compassionate. I'm an Asshole, for sure. 93 00:07:46.829 --> 00:07:49.709 I mean that's just kind of I'm an abrupt person. I have a low 94 00:07:50.790 --> 00:07:57.990 tolerance for stupidity and very little patients as far as timing, just waiting time 95 00:07:58.230 --> 00:08:05.980 goes, and I have this weird thing where my emotions don't evolve publicly on 96 00:08:05.100 --> 00:08:11.500 my face. As I'm getting more impatient, it'll go from looking like he's 97 00:08:11.660 --> 00:08:13.930 happy'd all of a sudden, to somebody else that will appear that I have 98 00:08:15.009 --> 00:08:18.170 snapped, whereas that snap might have taken three hours or three weeks or three 99 00:08:18.170 --> 00:08:22.769 days or whatever it takes for me to snap. I kind of have a 100 00:08:22.850 --> 00:08:26.370 bad tell where I just I'm completely nice and normal looking and it all of 101 00:08:26.410 --> 00:08:28.600 a sudden they think I snapped and I'm like, wait a second, compare 102 00:08:30.839 --> 00:08:33.120 what made me snap and how much time it took me to snap compared to 103 00:08:33.159 --> 00:08:37.399 the average person. The thing is, they don't see my gradient, my 104 00:08:37.600 --> 00:08:41.029 emotions don't you don't see them slightly getting worse and worse and worse or more 105 00:08:41.269 --> 00:08:48.429 intense or whatever. They just they're here and then they're POW. But I 106 00:08:48.549 --> 00:08:54.470 tried very hard not to direct that anger to my fellow human beings. Politicians 107 00:08:54.509 --> 00:08:58.259 aside, I don't consider them. Once you become an elected official, your 108 00:08:58.340 --> 00:09:03.659 fair game. In my mind, if you're a performer or entertainer or anything 109 00:09:03.740 --> 00:09:05.259 like that, you have the choice to be that. You could back away 110 00:09:05.259 --> 00:09:09.620 from the limelight or if it gets too hot, you don't like nobody owes 111 00:09:09.700 --> 00:09:16.690 you a safe ride into fame, let alone a continued riding its success in 112 00:09:16.809 --> 00:09:20.250 a public spotlight. So you could always step back. But you know, 113 00:09:20.330 --> 00:09:24.799 I'm always there for the underdog and I feel compassionate for people who lose, 114 00:09:24.960 --> 00:09:30.360 like the losers in a baseball game or any kind of I don't know. 115 00:09:30.519 --> 00:09:31.840 We apply for a job, or are you trying to do a thing? 116 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:37.120 Or you jump your bike over three kids and well, you know, whatever 117 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:39.350 you're trying to do, if you can't get it done, there's that. 118 00:09:39.429 --> 00:09:43.509 That's that thing that just lost, and I feel bad for it to even 119 00:09:43.669 --> 00:09:48.950 more intense degree it. There's a issue of loss that pertains more like to 120 00:09:48.070 --> 00:09:54.980 grief. This is where it gets into the trump thing. Now, stay 121 00:09:54.059 --> 00:09:58.580 with me here for a minute. It's kind of a convoluted metaphor or a 122 00:09:58.580 --> 00:10:05.539 analogy, I guess, but I think it will help us work together, 123 00:10:05.580 --> 00:10:09.450 right, not me and you, but US versus the crazies who continually support 124 00:10:09.490 --> 00:10:15.690 trump. This is how I feel. So I've always thought that trump was 125 00:10:15.809 --> 00:10:20.490 like a fucking spoiled rotten kid, one of those kids you see running rampant 126 00:10:20.090 --> 00:10:24.879 through a Walmart and his parents just don't care. They think it's cute, 127 00:10:24.919 --> 00:10:30.799 and in this case his parents being the Republican Party, the geop. So 128 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:35.909 the geop are Donald Trump's parents. And we've got this crazy little maniacal kid 129 00:10:37.429 --> 00:10:41.230 running all crazy through Walmart, stealing money out of people's purses, running over 130 00:10:41.350 --> 00:10:46.269 to the pharmacy and screwing up people's prescription and just, you know, sabotaging 131 00:10:48.029 --> 00:10:50.379 the whole store, just making a mess of it, and these parents think 132 00:10:50.419 --> 00:10:52.460 it's all. It's so cute. And you know the mom over there sues 133 00:10:52.539 --> 00:10:56.620 and she's like, oh, but you know, yeah, he's Dad List 134 00:10:56.700 --> 00:10:58.100 lets him do it at home. So I don't want to cross his dad. 135 00:10:58.659 --> 00:11:01.779 And you know is dad, Mitch, is like, Oh, yeah, 136 00:11:01.779 --> 00:11:03.769 it's not a big deal. So big deal, I got other things 137 00:11:03.850 --> 00:11:07.450 to worry about. I'm busy on some other stuff over here, and so 138 00:11:07.929 --> 00:11:11.570 you got this problem. Okay, now, that's a shitty family, right. 139 00:11:13.370 --> 00:11:18.639 However, what happens if that shitty little kid, through his own mistake 140 00:11:20.440 --> 00:11:24.600 while in the store, fucking it up, knocks over some shelves and crushes 141 00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:30.080 himself, Gig literally kills himself. Are you going to tell me you don't 142 00:11:30.120 --> 00:11:35.669 have any compassion for the parents even, let alone the secondary and third tiers 143 00:11:35.710 --> 00:11:39.590 of people that knew the kid or the parents? You don't have any compassion 144 00:11:39.629 --> 00:11:45.590 for those people? Now we all engage it. We all kind of even 145 00:11:45.629 --> 00:11:48.259 enable people like that in our own lives. This is just on a broader 146 00:11:48.379 --> 00:11:52.460 picture. So all I'm saying is that, you know, if that was 147 00:11:52.580 --> 00:11:56.659 the shitty family, they're grieving. That's what I'm saying. They're grieving. 148 00:11:58.059 --> 00:12:03.610 So while the friends and family of this Shitty kid are grieving, I think 149 00:12:03.610 --> 00:12:09.529 it's fair that we let that grieve however they want. That's the crazy thing 150 00:12:09.570 --> 00:12:13.889 about grief is that nobody is doing it right or wrong. You just do 151 00:12:13.009 --> 00:12:16.000 it. Do you cry? Did you cry Enough? Are I mean? 152 00:12:16.080 --> 00:12:20.600 Did you get it out? Are you holding it in? What if it 153 00:12:20.759 --> 00:12:24.000 is, it's hard to say. You know, I still don't do it 154 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:28.000 right. I've lost people close to me and I don't think I grieved right. 155 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:31.710 I'm not sure if there's a way. You know, I did the 156 00:12:31.789 --> 00:12:37.509 best I could. Still doing it. It's been years. It's only been 157 00:12:37.549 --> 00:12:39.549 a couple of weeks since the election. It's only even been a week and 158 00:12:39.590 --> 00:12:46.379 a half or so since it's been pretty much confirmed that their guy lost another 159 00:12:46.460 --> 00:12:48.539 but so that's still a huge loss in their life. That was their guy. 160 00:12:48.580 --> 00:12:52.659 I don't care if they're guys a fucking asshole, which he was, 161 00:12:54.460 --> 00:12:58.049 he's not the one that is experiencing that kind of loss. Any loss he 162 00:12:58.129 --> 00:13:03.049 experiences he can feel. I hope he feels at all multiple times. But 163 00:13:03.169 --> 00:13:07.769 these other folks, they lost an idea, they it's I don't even know 164 00:13:07.850 --> 00:13:11.610 how to explain it. Without it. If somebody, if you've experienced lost 165 00:13:11.409 --> 00:13:16.639 loss, then you know what that feels like and then you, I think, 166 00:13:16.679 --> 00:13:22.159 might have some empathy with how trump supporters might feel right now. So 167 00:13:22.279 --> 00:13:24.080 I don't want to spend too much time on this and I've got to go 168 00:13:24.240 --> 00:13:28.549 make some Tacos, but I appreciate you listening. It's nice to be heard 169 00:13:28.669 --> 00:13:39.190 and we'll talk tomorrow. And now back to the wall.