Imbalance? Define "balanced."

WEBVTT 1 00:00:09.789 --> 00:00:15.109 Welcome back to bipolar style. This is johnny emotions. I'm happy to happy 2 00:00:15.189 --> 00:00:20.390 here. Thanks for downloading the PODCAST and having to listen today. We're talking 3 00:00:20.429 --> 00:00:23.579 about a couple of interesting things that have kind of come across in the past 4 00:00:23.579 --> 00:00:27.739 a few days since the last podcast. The first thing we'll talk about is 5 00:00:28.100 --> 00:00:35.539 outing a loved one, meaning telling other people that you're loved one has bipolar 6 00:00:36.450 --> 00:00:42.850 and will also talk about the take a knee weekend and the idea of how 7 00:00:43.530 --> 00:00:47.969 people with disabilities can also protests. So that would be kind of NEAT. 8 00:00:48.009 --> 00:00:53.359 But first let me thank our our top leaders on the leaderboard again. If 9 00:00:53.399 --> 00:01:00.679 you go to bipolar stylecom slash leaderboard, you'll see the people who are been 10 00:01:00.719 --> 00:01:04.670 the most helpful in spreading our message and we appreciate that. Our message is 11 00:01:04.989 --> 00:01:11.430 effectively get together in person. So over the over the time you'll start to 12 00:01:11.549 --> 00:01:15.790 see the emo Joe logo on tshirts and recognize other bipolar people and their loved 13 00:01:15.829 --> 00:01:22.420 ones. And I also encourage everybody to find a local dbsa chapter and and 14 00:01:22.620 --> 00:01:25.939 maybe share there in person as well. If you want to be more anonymous 15 00:01:25.980 --> 00:01:29.260 and you'd like to share your story through this podcast, by all means. 16 00:01:29.299 --> 00:01:32.180 hit me up, email me. I love to hear from you. You 17 00:01:32.579 --> 00:01:36.409 can also follow me on twitter and direct message me. I usually follow everybody 18 00:01:36.450 --> 00:01:41.129 back and we can communicate that way. So all is good. I hope 19 00:01:41.170 --> 00:01:44.810 you've been well in the past few days. Times are trippy these days. 20 00:01:44.890 --> 00:01:52.000 You know, the political atmosphere is wild hurricanes, wildfires, earthquakes. It's 21 00:01:52.000 --> 00:01:57.799 a mess. It's just like all the televangelist preachers used to predict. And 22 00:01:57.000 --> 00:02:00.430 you know, honestly, it's not that bad. But I'm in California where, 23 00:02:00.870 --> 00:02:05.349 you know, the worst thing that can happen is the shutdown some Nazis 24 00:02:05.390 --> 00:02:07.990 trying to give a speech at Berkeley. So until we have the big earthquake 25 00:02:08.030 --> 00:02:12.909 that we drop off. We're very, very fortunate here in California, both 26 00:02:12.990 --> 00:02:17.780 for the weather and legalized cannabis and many other great things. So I'm happy 27 00:02:17.780 --> 00:02:21.300 to be in California. One of the cool things I did today, as 28 00:02:21.340 --> 00:02:23.900 a matter of fact, check this out. I think it's good for bipolar 29 00:02:23.939 --> 00:02:30.330 folks to get exercise and this morning we had a little bit different schedule at 30 00:02:30.330 --> 00:02:31.810 work. I got to go down to the boss's house. We did off 31 00:02:31.930 --> 00:02:36.930 site meeting to talk about some strategy and things like that. But he lives 32 00:02:36.969 --> 00:02:40.409 like ten miles in a different direction where there is no subway train, there's 33 00:02:40.449 --> 00:02:46.400 no like mass transit out that direction, but there is a fantastic bicycle trail 34 00:02:46.879 --> 00:02:50.240 from here to there. So it took a ten mile bike ride to work 35 00:02:50.319 --> 00:02:53.520 this morning and took a ten mile bike ride back home in the evening. 36 00:02:54.159 --> 00:02:59.629 Loved it. Got The blood pump and sweat out all the toxins and if 37 00:02:59.669 --> 00:03:01.389 you're able to get out of bed and go for a walk or something, 38 00:03:01.469 --> 00:03:05.830 man try that out. You love it, especially if the weather's awesome, 39 00:03:06.030 --> 00:03:08.789 and I think it's getting pretty nice most across the country. So if you're 40 00:03:08.789 --> 00:03:14.020 in America, I go enjoy the fall weather that we're starting to have and 41 00:03:14.259 --> 00:03:17.419 I get some fresh air. It always do you good. That reminds me. 42 00:03:17.939 --> 00:03:22.020 I don't know why it reminds me, but something that keeps coming up. 43 00:03:22.300 --> 00:03:24.900 I wanted to do some research on because it just I'm a kind of 44 00:03:24.900 --> 00:03:30.210 a little bit OCD and I'm a stickler for labels and naming things the right 45 00:03:30.409 --> 00:03:37.689 things and that sort of thing. So there's a big kind of mislabeling that 46 00:03:37.810 --> 00:03:44.879 happens in the psychiatric medicine community and they just let people run with it. 47 00:03:45.080 --> 00:03:50.840 Is when they call bipolar a chemical and balance. So yes, chemicals are 48 00:03:50.960 --> 00:03:53.840 involved, for sure. That's what the neuro transmitters work through, is the 49 00:03:53.840 --> 00:03:59.509 chemical center brains. All right, we got that. But to imply that 50 00:03:59.629 --> 00:04:05.909 there's an imbalance also implies that there is a consensus on what, quote unquote, 51 00:04:06.229 --> 00:04:11.620 balanced chemicals look like. Here in lies the problem. There is no 52 00:04:11.780 --> 00:04:16.819 consensus on what balance chemicals look like. There's a kind of a general conventional 53 00:04:16.899 --> 00:04:20.259 wisdom on how people should react to certain things like, oh, that's not 54 00:04:20.420 --> 00:04:24.100 sad. Why are you crying? Or how come you get angry at something 55 00:04:24.139 --> 00:04:29.610 so small? I get that where that seems different, but to say that 56 00:04:29.649 --> 00:04:34.170 the chemicals are in balanced simply leaves one option open. What to rebalance the 57 00:04:34.170 --> 00:04:39.519 chemicals? Hey, and how do you do that with capitalist pharmaceutical drugs? 58 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:45.240 So just keep all those things into consideration. When you use terms like chemical 59 00:04:45.319 --> 00:04:47.959 and balance, it's easy and it kind of conveys an easy thought for for 60 00:04:48.600 --> 00:04:54.949 normies to understand. Oh, the chemical and balance, but it's dangerously misleading 61 00:04:55.389 --> 00:05:00.949 in that it implies the answer is medicine from a doctor, from a capitalist 62 00:05:00.949 --> 00:05:04.790 pharmaceutical company follow me. So anyway, it's wander rants on that for a 63 00:05:04.870 --> 00:05:11.300 second and also dig it a couple of episodes. We talked about Maria Bamford, 64 00:05:11.980 --> 00:05:14.500 like liking or retweeting or something, you know, kind of made my 65 00:05:14.540 --> 00:05:19.060 night that night I was going through the twitter accounts at bipolar style and notice 66 00:05:19.139 --> 00:05:24.449 the Comic Theo Vaughan, is following the account. I think that's super cool. 67 00:05:24.449 --> 00:05:27.329 If you guys don't know who Theo van is, check him out. 68 00:05:27.329 --> 00:05:30.329 He's a kind of intellectual Budd he's from we Asiana, so he has that 69 00:05:30.410 --> 00:05:32.250 drawl. So at first it thinking, Oh, this guy's going to be 70 00:05:32.290 --> 00:05:38.759 dumb, but now it's super clever humor. It's on Netflix. Check out 71 00:05:38.839 --> 00:05:44.800 Theo van and make you laugh. Do it. Speaking of twitter, whatever 72 00:05:45.360 --> 00:05:47.360 I'm doing, I'm like experiment and I don't I'm not a twitter expert or 73 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:51.189 anything. So here's things I found that work on twitter. When people do 74 00:05:51.350 --> 00:05:57.230 cool things for you, thank them. If people mention you at all, 75 00:05:57.750 --> 00:06:02.550 press the little heart and retweeted, and if people follow you, follow them 76 00:06:02.629 --> 00:06:08.740 back in less their spammy accounts. Then it's fair to unfollow spammy accounts that 77 00:06:08.860 --> 00:06:12.860 are just you know, social media is, you know, by these clicks 78 00:06:12.899 --> 00:06:15.699 and likes or whatever. Yeah, don't. Obviously don't follow those. But 79 00:06:15.500 --> 00:06:18.610 so if you see real humans on twitter, follow them back and engage with 80 00:06:18.689 --> 00:06:23.089 them, and it seems to work. So our twitter accounts growing organically, 81 00:06:23.730 --> 00:06:27.930 you know, almost exponentially. Day by day we get more and more users 82 00:06:28.009 --> 00:06:30.930 and users were we'll call the followers. So I hope you are one of 83 00:06:30.970 --> 00:06:36.480 them. Go over to twitter and look for us at bipolar style, US 84 00:06:36.600 --> 00:06:41.879 meaning me and the mouse in my pocket at this point. And well, 85 00:06:42.000 --> 00:06:46.319 it's getting towards the end of the month. It's September right, and in 86 00:06:46.439 --> 00:06:51.110 a week or so it'll be October, and then the bipolar leaderboard re freshes. 87 00:06:51.269 --> 00:06:55.550 So at the end of each month all of the leaderboard points go back 88 00:06:55.589 --> 00:07:00.189 to zero and then you can start earning more points. You earn points by 89 00:07:00.269 --> 00:07:03.860 sharing things like our support page, which has lots of great links to bipolar 90 00:07:03.939 --> 00:07:08.500 resources. You could sign up to our email list. That'll get you some 91 00:07:08.620 --> 00:07:11.779 points. Follow us on twitter, comment on Facebook, you know, you 92 00:07:11.860 --> 00:07:14.540 get the drill. If you do any of those things, you will get 93 00:07:14.579 --> 00:07:19.610 points on our leaderboard and I'm going to start sending out Schwag tshirts and whatnot 94 00:07:19.649 --> 00:07:24.050 to the leaders each month. Cool. So go there, check it out 95 00:07:24.050 --> 00:07:30.319 and go to bipolar STYLECOMLA leaderboard. Help get the word out, spread some 96 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:34.399 good vibes and maybe even save a life. So do that. And let's 97 00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:39.720 get to the actual topics I wanted to talk about, because you know I 98 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:44.470 don't like to do super long podcasts. The first thing is the take Aknee 99 00:07:44.509 --> 00:07:48.990 weekend. It's really big deal this weekend. Apparently Colin Kaepernick of formerly the 100 00:07:49.110 --> 00:07:56.389 San Francisco for Ers, in his protest of police brutality and kind of general 101 00:07:56.470 --> 00:08:03.779 oppression of minority races, took a knee and decided not to salute the flag 102 00:08:03.980 --> 00:08:09.259 during the national anthem, and that is now spread to a thing where, 103 00:08:09.379 --> 00:08:11.420 since he's not able to get a job, nobody's hiring him. This season, 104 00:08:11.889 --> 00:08:18.089 this footballer in American coy other football players have taken up the stance of 105 00:08:18.209 --> 00:08:22.009 taking a knee as well, so I think it's pretty cool. It reminds 106 00:08:22.050 --> 00:08:26.089 me of the old video I used to see, like on Youtube, of 107 00:08:26.769 --> 00:08:28.959 back in the Olympics, I think the s or so, when the black 108 00:08:30.040 --> 00:08:33.600 athletes raise their fists in protest. That was pretty Badass and I think this 109 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:37.919 is kind of cool too. The Racist President we have has kind of turned 110 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:43.950 it into a race issue. He doesn't like particularly black and Brown athletes doing 111 00:08:43.070 --> 00:08:46.309 things without his permission. So even though he would like to see them on 112 00:08:46.350 --> 00:08:50.070 their knees and this case, he does not want them to take a knee. 113 00:08:50.750 --> 00:08:54.779 So yeah, it's troublesome here in America having outwardly races president. So 114 00:08:56.019 --> 00:09:00.100 he talked a bunch of mad shit about the basketball team, the warriors, 115 00:09:00.299 --> 00:09:03.139 because Steph curry didn't want to go to the White House. He said I'm 116 00:09:03.139 --> 00:09:05.539 not going and then trump, like a baby, said fine, you're not 117 00:09:05.620 --> 00:09:09.580 invited. You know that kind of thing on twitter of all places, right 118 00:09:09.620 --> 00:09:15.090 of course. So He disinvited NBA, you know, primarily black players. 119 00:09:15.529 --> 00:09:20.409 He dismissed the NFL, called them sons of bitches. They're primarily black, 120 00:09:20.210 --> 00:09:24.240 but he did say good things about NASCAR fans, primarily white, and he 121 00:09:24.320 --> 00:09:30.440 also invited the Pittsburgh Penguins hockey team to the White House now and they are 122 00:09:30.480 --> 00:09:33.159 all white. No black people on that team. So caters to the white 123 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:37.200 people, puts down the black people. I mean, big old dog whistle 124 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:41.669 to the racist in America. It's really troubling. So I just wanted to 125 00:09:41.710 --> 00:09:45.710 say you just kind of obvious reminder like back in the days of Hitler, 126 00:09:46.110 --> 00:09:50.549 they actually came for the disabled people first because nobody spoke up. So if 127 00:09:50.629 --> 00:09:54.940 you think you're above it, because Oh, I'm you know those guys are, 128 00:09:54.460 --> 00:09:56.659 they're rich, they shouldn't protest. Well, you know, the fact 129 00:09:56.659 --> 00:10:00.740 of the matter is we live in a society. It was built on racism, 130 00:10:00.779 --> 00:10:05.500 rape, torture, murder and slavery. So you've got to acknowledge that 131 00:10:05.659 --> 00:10:09.690 to live here in America. So if you don't acknowledge that, go get 132 00:10:09.690 --> 00:10:13.929 on the Internet and study the history of America. Now that you're in America 133 00:10:13.210 --> 00:10:18.370 in two thousand and seventeen, you have to really take into consideration that if 134 00:10:18.610 --> 00:10:22.279 true fascist took over and wanted to silence the masses, they would start with, 135 00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:26.320 quote unquote, crazy people like you, like me. So when you 136 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:31.799 see somebody protesting about being treated unfairly, especially if they are depressed minority, 137 00:10:33.039 --> 00:10:37.110 just remember you are an oppressed minority. You just don't realize it. People 138 00:10:37.149 --> 00:10:43.149 that are mentally ill are or a minority for sure, and they're definitely oppressed. 139 00:10:43.470 --> 00:10:48.190 So not to take away the pain that that minorities like black folks and 140 00:10:48.269 --> 00:10:52.460 Brown people feel yeah, just don't think you're immune to it just because you're 141 00:10:52.460 --> 00:10:56.580 white. If you're white and you take medicine and are on some doctors you 142 00:10:56.659 --> 00:11:01.220 know spreadsheet that you're a patient, then you could be on somebody else's list 143 00:11:01.259 --> 00:11:05.289 as well. So just totally be aware of that and, more importantly, 144 00:11:05.929 --> 00:11:11.809 don't be so harsh on people protesting. If you see the quote unquote, 145 00:11:11.809 --> 00:11:15.409 anti file in the street, think about it. There wouldn't be. ANTIFA 146 00:11:15.610 --> 00:11:20.600 is an organic reaction to fascism. There's no leader of Antifi. You can't 147 00:11:20.639 --> 00:11:24.639 write to the corporate office and say Dear Antifa. It's not how it works. 148 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:28.639 These are regular people that show up to fight fascists. If you haven't 149 00:11:28.679 --> 00:11:33.309 thought of these ideas of protests differently, think about where America is right now 150 00:11:33.909 --> 00:11:37.269 and just take it to heart. Don't panic or freak out about it, 151 00:11:37.429 --> 00:11:43.470 but just realize that people protesting have really good reasons to protest. Nobody's gonna 152 00:11:43.909 --> 00:11:48.059 stand out, stick their neck out if they really didn't feel passionately about something. 153 00:11:48.220 --> 00:11:50.740 You know, whatever, it is okay. And so the last topic 154 00:11:52.500 --> 00:11:58.980 is about outing a loved one. So in a group anonymously. I heard 155 00:11:58.980 --> 00:12:03.450 a story, let's say, about a person who's loved one decided to go 156 00:12:03.690 --> 00:12:11.210 tell their family and friends about person a's bipolar condition. So the thing was 157 00:12:11.809 --> 00:12:18.320 person, a trusted person, be with their medical history secret, whatever you 158 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:22.240 want to call it. I mean basically their private to see, much in 159 00:12:22.279 --> 00:12:24.799 the same way a cancer patient or AIDS patient or anybody was something they didn't 160 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:28.200 want others to know. That's the same way with bipolar. So if you 161 00:12:28.360 --> 00:12:33.509 know somebody who is bipolar, it's not up to you to tell anybody else 162 00:12:33.549 --> 00:12:37.669 about it. I feel this very personally. When I was first diagnosed with 163 00:12:37.750 --> 00:12:41.870 bipolar, my exwife would tell people in her sphere not only that I was 164 00:12:41.950 --> 00:12:45.779 bipolar, but that I was a drug addict, that I was a loser, 165 00:12:45.940 --> 00:12:46.940 that I was all these other things that I actually wasn't. I was 166 00:12:46.940 --> 00:12:52.980 simply sick. But you know, that's that's taking being mean to a whole 167 00:12:52.019 --> 00:12:54.899 another level. But just if you want to be a good friend to a 168 00:12:54.980 --> 00:13:00.610 bipolar people hold their privacy with them. You know they're not telling you that 169 00:13:00.730 --> 00:13:03.289 they're bipolar because they want you to be a megaphone to the rest of the 170 00:13:03.330 --> 00:13:07.049 world. They want to control their message. So don't sell them out. 171 00:13:07.450 --> 00:13:11.289 They're not going to tell your dirty secrets to the world either, and that's 172 00:13:11.330 --> 00:13:15.879 how friendships and families and loved ones should treat each other. They should be 173 00:13:15.879 --> 00:13:20.440 kind and respect each other's privacy. So in the case that I was listening 174 00:13:20.519 --> 00:13:24.440 to earlier, yeah, it got kind of out of hand. A lot 175 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:31.309 of the respondents were really hammering the person. The person was actually person be 176 00:13:31.789 --> 00:13:35.750 who had spread the story and they were trying to defend themselves like I have 177 00:13:35.870 --> 00:13:39.350 a right, you know, I have my rights, I have my feelings 178 00:13:39.509 --> 00:13:43.899 too, and which is true. But if you're voluntarily in a relationship with 179 00:13:43.980 --> 00:13:48.179 someone that you know is sick, that's your responsibility to navigate that piece your 180 00:13:48.340 --> 00:13:54.940 piece. Don't don't just blame the fact that you can't handle the relationship on 181 00:13:54.059 --> 00:13:58.169 the fact that you're now spilling their secrets. So that doesn't make sense. 182 00:13:58.210 --> 00:14:03.009 It doesn't old water as an argument. It's totally illogical. Just be kind 183 00:14:03.009 --> 00:14:07.409 and if people tell you something in privacy, keep their secrets private. Makes 184 00:14:07.490 --> 00:14:13.120 Sense. Sounds pretty simple anyhow, bell rang, it's time for me to 185 00:14:13.159 --> 00:14:16.559 get out of here. I hope you have a fantastic next couple of days. 186 00:14:16.320 --> 00:14:20.159 Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Maybe I'll check in. went to Thursday. 187 00:14:20.600 --> 00:14:26.350 Hope to you on the Internet. Check US online at bipolar stylecom. 188 00:14:26.789 --> 00:14:31.230 We're also in Itunes, stitcher, Google play and on twitter, of course. 189 00:14:31.269 --> 00:14:35.629 Yeah, that's where all the actions seems to be at bipolar style. 190 00:14:35.509 --> 00:14:39.539 It's great being with you. I'm glad you were here. I'm glad you're 191 00:14:39.580 --> 00:14:41.259 here. If you want to talk on the air, get a hold of 192 00:14:41.299 --> 00:14:46.740 me through the website and check out the next Thursday. Ja